5 May 2020

Not Everyday Has To Be Remarkable

After staying away from social media and partaking in a very slow Sunday, I began to realize that not every day has to be groundbreaking - what a revelation, I know!

I constantly preach about the importance of being at home and enjoying your own company, but I didn't comprehend how much I under-appreciated the joy and comfort of simply being with my partner. In fact, we spent the Sunday just gone enjoying every moment with one another. We woke up just before 10 am, ate smoked salmon bagels, had a movie marathon, and devoured an array of snacks. We had the most wonderful chilled out day doing absolutely nothing of importance and it was needed.

Sunday reminded me of a time before I started blogging or really caring about social media at all. A time when I spent days on end with my partner in his old bedroom at his parents, watching Making of a Murderer, eating pancakes, and going to gigs where I would awe watching his doom metal band perform. 

Simpler times when I was twenty-three. Four years have passed since then.

I have this blog now, a home, and a social media following. These things never truly crossed my mind during my early twenties.

When I woke up yesterday morning I had high hopes to be productive. I kissed my partner goodbye as he headed off to work, tweeted my Monday to-do list, and ate my favourite avocado on toast for breakfast. At some point around eleven, however, I decided that my day was already over. My jaw felt clenched, my head felt dizzy, and every time I tried to write I struggled to find the words. I'd spent almost the entire day feeling utterly helpless and guilty for not being more productive. Every time I opened my laptop inspiration died. Nothing came to fruition. 

I'm not trying to belittle myself, but isn't it completely foolish to feel so upset and guilty for not being in the right frame of mind? What I'm trying to say is, I should spend my days however I please with no shame. It's frustrating when your day doesn't go to plan, but it doesn't mean my day was wasted because I chose to get back into bed and spend my afternoon watching Identical Strangers on Netflix. 

Not every moment has to be invested in writing blog content, taking photos, scheduling, tweeting, editing, planning, comparing myself to other influencers, and doubting whether I'm good enough. Not every day has to be remarkable. These blogs we take so much pride in (whether they're a career or a hobby) shouldn't be rigid. We make the rules and we should be able to rearrange our schedule when we see fit. The effort and opportunity is ours...

So, it's okay to take a day off or two. It's okay to decide not to schedule and promote content. It's okay if you don't want to work on Mondays. It's okay if you don't find inspiration every day, and it's okay if you don't take a photo of everything you're doing in life. Not every moment needs documenting. Not every day is a good mental health day. Yes, Kate - I'm talking to you here!

It's beneficial to create some sort of structure and routine, but that has to work for us, to become flexible on days where our mindset is off. The routine doesn't even have to outline much, it can simply just express that you aim to invest a certain amount of hours into your blog each week. Nothing too specific or unchangeable. So often I forget that I can choose my workload and that I can change it whenever I please. I'm not answering to anyone but myself.

This morning when I woke up, I kissed my partner goodbye and proudly grabbed my laptop. I felt inspired to write about all of the things stuck in my mind yesterday that I couldn't put into words. This blog post for example and many more to come.

Today I must remember this - regardless of whether I spend one hour or several on my laptop, my day will not be wasted.

This day is all mine. This day is ours.

I must add this too - right now more than ever, we feel this pressure to be busy and productive constantly, but I promise you don't have to do more than whatever your normal is. Taking up a new hobby, exercising, learning to bake, or learning to speak a new language is all lovely, but not necessary. Doing absolutely nothing extra with these hours we spend at home is fine as well. I hope none of you feel pressure to come out of this darkness as a new and improved person. It's okay to just be you. To spend your days playing Animal Crossing or the Sims 4 and catching up on every series or movie you've missed in recent years. Getting through this, staying home, healthy, and safe is an achievement. Remarkable if you like. 


  1. LOVE LOVE LOVE this! Couldn't agree more. I definitely have days where I beat myself up for not being able to achieve what I'd set out for myself the day before. Isn't it funny how we can one day revel in the idea of not doing anything and then another day we can hate ourselves for it. I'm happy I've found your blog and look forward to reading more from you!

  2. This is such an important post! Completely agree with not putting pressure on, and taking a day or two (or more) off to rewind. Doing nothing can be incredibly valuable. Very well said.

  3. Agree with you & have fun!

  4. I absolutely LOVE this post, it's so beautifully written and absolutely spot on. I think comparison really is the thief of joy, I spend a LOT of time comparing myself (unfavourably) to other bloggers and beating myself up for not being as productive as I think I should be. You're right, it's all about balance and it's all about the little things. Thank you for such a lovely reminder! Lisa x

  5. Loved this post - it really reminds you to ease the pressure off yourself and that it's okay to just chill!

  6. Brilliant! I think we are all feeling so much pressure to be achieving something, anything during this time.

    And I’ll be honest, I’m loving seeing the hard work I’m putting in paying off, but I do feel guilty if I stop which is so silly.

    You’ve made my mind up, I’m having the afternoon off! Thank you x

  7. Thank you for being so honest :) It's so easy to be kind to others but so easy to be cruel to ourselves, I'm trying to be alittle nicer to myself too haha

  8. I saw a tweet about this earlier and it really made me think. I have a REAL problem with productivity and feeling worthwhile. I always have to be doing something but I've been working so hard to have those days where I don't really do... anything. It's a working progress for sure!


  9. Beautiful post! We should enjoy more the small things that matter the most!

  10. I loved reading this post Kate! You're absolutely right, not everyday has to be remarkable and we should just enjoy the little things! x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

  11. This is great! I think you are so right with this; sometimes you just need that 'of' time to recharge and take in the little things. You can definitely get more inspiration as well that way! I think with blogging/social media you can forget that you can switch off, because it is so accessible!

    Thanks for sharing!

    Aimsy xoxo
    Aimsy’s Antics

  12. Love it! I have definitely been getting that feeling of anxiety when I'm not feeling "productive enough". I have a ton of extra time on my hands not only because of covid-19, but because I was injured at work (4 months ago yesterday) and my surgery has been delayed by the covid-19 pandemic. I do feel that I need to do something productive with my time, since I'll have so much more of it than most (when I do finally get my surgery I'll have 6 months of recovery before I can return to work). But I need to figure out some sort of system where I don't feel like I need to be productive from morning until bedtime 7 days a week. Thanks for this post!

  13. I sometimes feel guilty when I'm not doing something productive. This post is a great reminder that it's ok to slow down a bit and enjoy every moment. Thanks:)

  14. I love this post so much! Lately I have felt like I have to be doing something every minute of the day. I am always finding something to do or comparing myself to other better bloggers and it is eating away at me. Thank you for this post, it reminds me to sit back and take a chill pill every once in a while. It isn't good to push yourself to burnout and that is something so easy to forget!

    Em x


  15. It's so so easy to over do it without even realising. Especially with blogging etc there's the pressure to be constantly writing, planning, on your phone promoting on every social media platform. I honestly find that I have to turn my phone off to avoid temptation due to constant notifications. I totally think that this rare and unusual time can be used for relaxing and taking some of the daily pressure off ourselves. I'm so happy that you were able to realise that and I hope you're loads happier for it and feel the benefits. This was a beautiful post to read and I hope you're feeling better now and keeping safe and healthy xxxx

  16. It was perfect the first time. I learn so much from you as well! Keep it up great post.

  17. I love this post! I've been struggling with feeling really productive some days and struggling with any motivation other days, especially with all that's going on. It's so important to be kind to ourselves and allow ourselves to adjust as we need to :)

    Alyssa :)

  18. I love that you wrote about your time before having a blog because I think about how much my life has changed because of my blog. I us d to not care about how often I was on social media but now I have to be for my followers. But it’s important to remember that it’s okay to turn off from technology and just enjoy your day.


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